I want to share some insight when it comes to dealing with your feelings and fears.
What I have had to learn and what I want you to know and understand is that deep within your own soul, that place that so many girls are afraid to trust, is the truth of who you really are. You have to know that you are a person of worth who is valuable and was put on this earth for a reason. When you listen to that truth you will begin to see that the negative words that have made you cry or made you feel bad about yourself will no longer have that power over you.
Most people are coming from a place of fear. Most people are attached to the outcome then it ends up paralyzing them. You must learn to accept that failure is a part of success. Theodore Roosevelt said it best when he said “The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust, sweat and blood; who strives valiantly, who errs and if he fails, at least he fails while daring greatly.” So get out there and dare greatly.
I know there may be times that you have been excluded, some mean things have been said about or to you and so you have every right to be upset and angry. The truth is, life can be painful, difficult, and confusing. But life can also be beautiful, fun, and amazing. So go out there and find your place in the world, because being a woman has so many advantages.
I want you to know that you need to love yourself. Follow your vision and not the crowd. Through this, you will find your passion. My passion is writing. It helps me reflect, process, and express. So if dancing, playing soccer, rollerblading, reading or writing is your passion, then do it with an abundance of fun and love.
Learn to choose your friends wisely. Try not to befriend someone that might be considered ‘toxic’. They are the so-called friends who constantly bring you down with their own negativity, self-hate, and basic bullshit. You have to seek friends that challenge you, encourage you, make you happy and are genuinely happy for your success. But you must also check to see if you do the same for them.
So you must learn to become a ‘beautiful enemy’ and teach others to do the same for you. Tal Ben Shahar described a ‘beautiful enemy’ as someone who challenges you as a person and has the courage to be honest and forthright while also being emphatic and sensitive to your needs. It is about cultivating a true friendship by pushing each other to greater heights. It will also help you eliminate all the crazies and toxic friends. But you must learn to embrace that beautiful enemy for your-self or else you will drown in the sea of negativity.
NEVER EVER stop learning. Knowledge is power. If you stop learning, you will also stop growing as a person.